Pop culture is the best and only guide we have. Dave Hickey said the cultures that write love songs are the ones that don't have rigid scripts for love and courtship. We listen to love songs because we accept few limitations and instead use a shared collection of stories to orient ourselves in the vast space of possibilities.

So, what part of pop culture tells us how to flirt? (If you say reality television, I will climb out of your monitor and stab you in the face.)